Think about trophies for a moment. Some people get trophies, some do not. Those who get trophies likely feel great about getting them. People might admire their trophy. Trophies tend to get put up on shelves, out on display. But think about things that you look at every day. If something is out on display, sooner or later, you get tired of looking at it. Or it just becomes part of the scenery. In either case, the luster wears off eventually, and the trophy starts to look less appealing than it did when you first got it.
What about when the trophy gets old? Sometimes they tarnish. Trophies get lost or broken all the time. Sometimes the person who got the trophy might get a better one. What happens to the old one then? Does it get shoved to the back of the shelf? Thrown out? Given away? It’s doubtful that the old trophy will still have a place of honor once a newer, better trophy comes along.
It shouldn’t be hard to think about a person in place of an actual trophy. For those who go looking for a “trophy spouse,” what is the purpose? It seems to happen a lot that people who pick up trophy spouses tend to trade them in for a newer model when a better “trophy” comes along. That doesn’t sound like a recipe for a good long marriage to me. That sounds like a bad deal for one or both parties
So my advice, for what it’s worth (maybe not much since you didn’t pay for it), don’t go looking for a trophy spouse. Look for a partner that can be there for the long haul. Remember, trophies almost always lose their shine after a while. Partners don’t.